I will minimize my own story in this proposal, but I have to disclose something for you to understand the value in the service I am offering.

My case was the last to be heard on a Friday in Camden County New Jersey Family Court, which means I was in court for eight hours, and my case was only fifteen minutes.

Midday, the judge told a plaintiff, defendant and their lawyers to step out and agree to the details of the child's summer schedule, and the process took hours. When they returned to read to the court record it became obvious reading was foolish for such a long agreement, so the attorney's notes were used for the court record. I came to understand the same process can be accomplished with a court appointed parental coordinator, which is a court alternative for settlement of high-conflict parental agreements like the aforementioned.

I now understand the benefits of parental coordination, but is there room for more improvement?

Please be reminded my service is free. You will pay me no money, instead, you will watch my movie as compensation.

Here is the service I am offering: If you decide to contact me, you are my prospective client, and I will create a "secret group" in facebook.com. This is accomplished by creating a group in facebook.com and selecting "secret".

I will invite you and your ex-spouse to the group, and if he or she accepts, the two of you will communicate by exchanging text on the wall of the group. The mother and father may benefit by communication that is semi-public. I am banking on text written knowing I could read it may be more respectful and less contemptuous, and more productive when compared to private communication. Base on a collection of my own life experiences, I am a proponent of a termination of private access between divorced parents. Couples often seem okay in public, but yet they divorce, because they are not okay in private. I think it follows that the couple's private life should terminate when the marriage terminates, and my secret-group idea gives a forum for direct communication that is witnessed.

What if your ex-spouse does not accept the invitation to the "secret group"? At the time of this email, I do not have my first client, so I am willing to make a heroic effort to get your ex-spouse to accept including multiple emails and phone calls, so please don't hesitate to ask.

In addition to traffic to my movie, I imagine great personal satisfaction with success. If high-conflict exists after a divorce, and this "secret group" is effective, then kids have parents who can communicate better without involving kids or other family members. Ultimately this idea promotes peace. amen and a salam alaikum. Tom Doody, 901pacific@gmail.com

To begin . . .

Compensation (watching the movie) is only required if your ex-spouse accepts the invitation, so begin by a reply with your ex-spouse’s email address. I will create a secret group in facebook.com, and invite you and your ex-spouse to the group. If your ex-spouse never accepts my invitation, then the secret group remains idle, and it will get deleted in time.